By Joseph Carducci www.top-10-reasons.blogspot.com
Here are the top 10 dating mistakes men make with Russian women (in no particular order after number 1!):
1. Sending a woman money: This is a huge no-no. Any Russian or FSU (Former Soviet Union) woman who asks you for money is just trying to scam you. She will either bleed you until you are dry (if she is very slick) or just disappear after a quick score (if you are lucky). An honest woman would not ask; she has too much pride. Besides, she has already lived for 20+ years without your “help.” Why does she need you now? A Russian woman does not even consider the two of you to be in a “real” relationship until you have met in person! Would you give money to American girl that you had just met? Would you ask her for money? Think about it. It is just not smart and sets you up for trouble (and makes the ladies think it is easy and encourages more of the same behavior).
2. Not being prepared to visit: You did know that in order to bring her over here as a fiancee, you must visit her, in her country? Yes, it is the only way she will be able to get a visa to come to the USA. For more details on the visa and immigration process click here. Honestly, though, an FSU woman, if she is serious, will want to meet you. You must be ready and prepared to visit her at some point in the future. It has been my observation (by watching and talking with both western men and FSU women) that a woman will generally give you about 6 months to decide you will visit. Then a few more months for you to get yourself over there. Make her wait longer than this and she will think you are not serious and probably move on to someone she thinks is! Just be ready: emotionally, physically, and monetarily.
3. Falling in love with a photo: Do not place too much emphasis on her photo. At least not until you know more details about her and her photos. Perhaps they are old. I once had a woman tell me her photos were over 2 years old! Her hair color and style was changed and it looked like she had gained about 20 pounds! Know what? It was my fault, because I did not ask her! Generally, the women of the FSU look even better in person than in their photos—and that is a huge compliment! But not always, and you do not marry a photo, you marry a real person. Get to know her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her dreams, desires, passions, hobbies, etc… Try to understand (as they say in Russia) her inner world.
4. Focusing only on one woman: Bad idea. You may get lucky and find the woman you end up marrying right away. I do know some people that things worked out this way with. I also know some people who won the lottery! Do not bet on this happening. You need to get over the idea of being a gentleman. This is, in it’s most basic sense, a numbers game. I heard it said that only 4% of US-Russian relationships are successful. With that in mind you will have to date and meet 25 ladies on average before finding your wife. This was indeed true in my case. I met over 150 ladies in person, and actively dated around 30 of them. Hopefully you will not need to go through this many. If you hang around at my site, read my articles, manuals, and use my consulting services, I guarantee you a heck of a lot better results! Writing/dating only one woman at a time is a bad idea. If it doesn’t work out with her, than you are back at ground zero and have nothing. You have to start all over again. Not to mention the time that you have wasted, and the money if you actually took a trip to meet her in person. We all want to believe in love at first sight, but many times you look at someone and she looks at you and you know immediately it is just not going to work. Sure, sometimes it goes perfectly, but will you gamble 3-4 months of your life and several thousand dollars on a trip to Russia just to find that out!? Most guys who are involved in this process (statistically speaking) are in their mid-upper 40’s…and most of the ladies are in their mid-upper 20’s. Do you have the time to waste? She probably does, but you need to be in contact with several women at any given time. Even if only for comparison purposes.
5. Not doing your proper research: By this I mean finding an honest and reliable dating or marriage agency, finding out all you can about your woman, learning about the geography, history, culture and language of the country she is from. These are all crucial to your success. You need to find an honest service. Then you need to educate yourself on other ways of contacting your woman. This will continue to ensure that your agency is honest, and that you are indeed writing to a real woman! Without doing your research you are just placing your bets (paying your money) and taking your chances.
6. Sending her the wrong photos: You do not need to send her photos of your house, car or other prized possession. If you do, I guarantee you will attract the wrong type of woman. An honest woman from the FSU is more concerned about your heart than she is about your possessions. If you focus on your money and things, she will probably assume you are a shallow and insecure person. Focusing on your possessions only seems to work on American women, the most shallow and insecure women in the world! This is not America, you do not need to impress these ladies with things! Show them your sensitive side, what you like to do, how you think and feel.
7. Thinking she is just after a visa: Then again if you thought this way, would you really be interested in writing her in the first place? Unless you were just interested in a business relationship type of marriage. She wants love and respect, not a free ride to America! Would you be interested in moving thousands of miles away from home, leaving all your family and friends, learning a new language, just to improve your standard of living? Neither does she. She does not want a savior, she wants a husband!
8. Thinking she will be your trophy wife: These ladies are tough as nails. They have to deal with drunk husbands/boyfriends who think nothing about going out and finding a mistress, don’t want to support their family (so she goes out to work), and generally most of the decisions and hard choices fall to the ladies. She will show you her claws if she thinks you are using her just as a “trophy wife.” Find someone to be your lover, wife, and equal partner, not someone you can dominate and control. For most men, I would say that even if they tried it would not be possible to control a Russian woman anyway—she is strong-willed and fiercely independent.
9. Not asking her questions: You are looking for a wife, not someone to just pass the time. Well, then again… Seriously, these are serious and honest women (for the most part) and they deserve the same respect. Besides, if you do not ask her questions to find out more about her, her family, dreams, goals, etc… she will sooner or later figure out that you are not serious. Then she will dump you, or just see what she can get out of you! If you are truly looking for a wife, you should be asking her all kinds of questions! Not only ask many different questions, but ask them several times in various ways, just to see if you get consistent answers (another good way to protect yourself from a scam).
10. Not having a back-up plan: This is a HUGE mistake! If you do eventually go over to the FSU, you never know what will happen. I once remarked to an agency owner that I had become friendly with, “the only thing I can count on happening here is something unexpected!” She laughed, but quickly agreed with me. I have been through an earthquake, watching the Twin Towers fall from a hotel room in Kiev, Ukraine, even being re-routed on a train for several hours due to a munitions dump explosion! And this does not even include all of the unexpected experiences I have had with the women themselves! I do not care how many letters you have exchanged or how many phone calls you have made, once you see her in person, things will change. Maybe you both look at each other and decide it will not work. Your back-up plan will protect you in this case. I do not advise making a trip just for one woman (unless you have already met). Meet several. Try to have good relations with at least one of the local agencies in the city you will be visiting (being on good terms with 2 or more is even better). Know their address and phone numbers. Then, if things don’t work out, you will be able to contact the other agency and meet other women.
That’s it. Keep these in mind as you progress in your search.
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
Is Online Dating Safe? 10 Tips For Safe Internet Dating
Is online dating safe? Dating can be risky no matter where you meet
The internet has become the dating method of choice for millions of people and the vast majority of them, including myself, have been very happy with the results. Is it risky? Yes it is but so is dating in general. Remember these common sense tips and you'll be as safe as you possibly can be when dating online.
1. Don't give out your personal details
If you are looking for suitable dates on line you could be talking to a lot of interested people. They don't all need to know where you live or your phone number. Don't give them this information until you know them a lot better and you've met them in the real world.
2. Don't enter into any financial arrangements
Wherever there is opportunity there will be a small number of thieves and criminals. The Internet provides many opportunities for thieves and con men so there is a small possibility that you might meet one of them online. Thieves who prey on people looking for dates online are most likely to be after one thing - your money. So don't ever give them any or enter into any financial transaction with them no matter how plausible their story is.
This is a very important tip because it's a common ploy of online thieves to persuade you to do things like opening a bank account that they have access to so that they can deposit money into it. They invent some reason for you to draw out the money and send it to them, which you do because everything looks ok. Some time later the bank informs you that the check that had been cleared into the account was forged and the money has been removed from your account. It’s a simple confidence trick so don't fall for it.
3. Find out everything you can about your new friend
Ask as many questions as possible and look for inconsistencies in his story. Find out where he lives, how old he is, where he works, what he does and anything else you can think of. The more he tells you the more certain you can be of his sincerity.
4. Examine his story carefully
Confidence tricksters tell you a pack of lies to get you to do what they want you to do. It's very difficult to make up an elaborate set of lies that are all believable and don't contradict so it's not difficult to see through it if you look carefully enough. You only have to find one piece of information that you can definitely identify as a lie to cast doubt over everything else he tells you. If you find that he's lying then walk away.
5. Do a background check on him
Now that you have a lot of information about your new friend you can do a background check on him herehttp://this-info.com/ You'll be able to check that he lives where he says he does, that he doesn't have a criminal record, how old he is, whether he's married or not and loads more. If the background check doesn't agree with what he tells you or he simply doesn't seem to exist then you should walk away.
6. Meet in a public place in broad daylight
When you feel that you're ready you'll want to meet your new friend in the flesh. When the time comes make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place in broad daylight. You should have checked out his background by now so you can afford to be relaxed about it but you should still avoid giving out your personal information until you know that you are interested in seeing him again.
7. Tell a friend where you are going
Always make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and who you're going to meet. Arrange to check in with them at a certain time so that they know all is well. It's unlikely that you'll have a problem if you've followed the tips above but it's good to have a back up plan to raise the alarm if anything goes wrong.
8. Talk to their friends
Before you get too serious with a person you should try to talk to his friends about him. This is where you'll find out the real story of what he's like and how easy he is to live with.
9. Never give them money
Never give him money or enter into any financial transaction with them. You might want to do this at some time in the future but don't even think about it now.
10. Take your time
Don't rush into anything. Give yourself time to get to know your new friend and check him out. If he's worth it he'll understand and your future relationship together will be all the better for it.
Is online dating safe? It can be and it is for thousands of happy couples around the world. I know because I'm one of them. Follow these tips and enjoy safe Internet dating.
The internet has become the dating method of choice for millions of people and the vast majority of them, including myself, have been very happy with the results. Is it risky? Yes it is but so is dating in general. Remember these common sense tips and you'll be as safe as you possibly can be when dating online.
1. Don't give out your personal details
If you are looking for suitable dates on line you could be talking to a lot of interested people. They don't all need to know where you live or your phone number. Don't give them this information until you know them a lot better and you've met them in the real world.
2. Don't enter into any financial arrangements
Wherever there is opportunity there will be a small number of thieves and criminals. The Internet provides many opportunities for thieves and con men so there is a small possibility that you might meet one of them online. Thieves who prey on people looking for dates online are most likely to be after one thing - your money. So don't ever give them any or enter into any financial transaction with them no matter how plausible their story is.
This is a very important tip because it's a common ploy of online thieves to persuade you to do things like opening a bank account that they have access to so that they can deposit money into it. They invent some reason for you to draw out the money and send it to them, which you do because everything looks ok. Some time later the bank informs you that the check that had been cleared into the account was forged and the money has been removed from your account. It’s a simple confidence trick so don't fall for it.
3. Find out everything you can about your new friend
Ask as many questions as possible and look for inconsistencies in his story. Find out where he lives, how old he is, where he works, what he does and anything else you can think of. The more he tells you the more certain you can be of his sincerity.
4. Examine his story carefully
Confidence tricksters tell you a pack of lies to get you to do what they want you to do. It's very difficult to make up an elaborate set of lies that are all believable and don't contradict so it's not difficult to see through it if you look carefully enough. You only have to find one piece of information that you can definitely identify as a lie to cast doubt over everything else he tells you. If you find that he's lying then walk away.
5. Do a background check on him
Now that you have a lot of information about your new friend you can do a background check on him here
6. Meet in a public place in broad daylight
When you feel that you're ready you'll want to meet your new friend in the flesh. When the time comes make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place in broad daylight. You should have checked out his background by now so you can afford to be relaxed about it but you should still avoid giving out your personal information until you know that you are interested in seeing him again.
7. Tell a friend where you are going
Always make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and who you're going to meet. Arrange to check in with them at a certain time so that they know all is well. It's unlikely that you'll have a problem if you've followed the tips above but it's good to have a back up plan to raise the alarm if anything goes wrong.
8. Talk to their friends
Before you get too serious with a person you should try to talk to his friends about him. This is where you'll find out the real story of what he's like and how easy he is to live with.
9. Never give them money
Never give him money or enter into any financial transaction with them. You might want to do this at some time in the future but don't even think about it now.
10. Take your time
Don't rush into anything. Give yourself time to get to know your new friend and check him out. If he's worth it he'll understand and your future relationship together will be all the better for it.
Is online dating safe? It can be and it is for thousands of happy couples around the world. I know because I'm one of them. Follow these tips and enjoy safe Internet dating.
Monday, February 19, 2007
Top 10: Secret Dating Rules
By Andy Levy-Ajzenkopf www.top10secret.blogspot.com
For as long as there have been men and women, there's been dating and dating rituals. Being the sly hunters we are, men have built up a reservoir of knowledge and cunning over the millennia on how to successfully woo the ladies over the first few weeks of a courtship.
There are many fish in the sea, and there are many baiting procedures you can use to reel them in. And though many women may be aware of some of our strategies, they surely don't know of all of them. Let's keep it that way, gentlemen. Keep these timeless secret dating tips under your hat and enjoy the learning process.
Number 10
Wait three days before calling back
The idea behind this dating rule of thumb is to make sure that your new squeeze doesn't think you're desperate to see her. And it's become a golden rule because it often works. Many women know the dating game, and want to see if their new man can play it. Prove that you can by keeping it cool, and resisting the urge to follow up on a meeting too promptly. Just make sure not to wait longer than a few days to call back, or she may cool off entirely.
Number 9
Take her where everyone knows your name
Another way to impress your new woman early in the game is to go somewhere where you already have a great reputation. By taking her to one of your usual haunts, you'll get to showcase your smooth self in action among your vast circle of acquaintances. Whether it's a simple greeting from a DJ at the club or a restaurant manager who hooks you up with the best table, a display of social clout will definitely make an impact on your date. It's a sure-fire way to let her know that she's caught herself a real man.
Number 8
Resist sleeping with her early on
Aside from the fact that withholding yourself will keep her wanting you more, adhering to this rule also shows her that you're a man who isn't ruled by his loins. Don't hold back entirely, though; kiss her passionately as if you were going to have sex, then pull away. Doing so will heighten the sexual tension and will be a huge turn-on for her. And when you finally do decide to do the deed, your patience and self control will end up paying huge dividends in the bedroom.
Number 7
Limit your spending
One of the best ways to know if she's a keeper is to find out how much money she expects you to spend on her. On early dates, take her to places where you don't have to spend much, such as a coffee shop, lounge or boardwalk. This will give you a chance to figure out whether she's all about you... or your wallet. Mind you, don't cheap out completely, or she'll just think you're a bum.
Number 6
Screen her first few calls
While the 10th rule prevents you from appearing too needy, this one allows you to gauge whether or not she's desperate. You want to make sure that you're not getting involved with someone with stalker tendencies. Return her calls one or two days later, so that you keep control of the situation -- but no later than this, or you risk turning her off completely and losing your honey to another bee.
Number 5
Don't offer her gifts early on
Very rarely are you going to recognize a woman as the love of your life within the first few months of dating her. At this point you're still getting to know her, and she most likely hasn't revealed any of those true quirks or characteristics that could put a quick end to your dating. So don't get all goofy and start showering her with expensive gifts.
Number 4
Be mysterious... but not weird
Remember not to volunteer any information about past relationships, your family or your job right away. Your woman will keep you guessing about her, so you need to do the same in return. Maintaining some intrigue keeps the spice in dating. Let her tease information out of you slowly. Make her think that she's "winning" this game, even as you control the flow of information. Just make sure you don't get too creepy about it, or you could end up scaring her off.
Number 3
Don't flatter her too much
While it's true that you will have to do some flattering in your initial flirtations, keep it toned down. The worst thing you can do is lay on the compliments too thick at the beginning. Rather than inflating her head, see if she can enjoy your company and conversation without an accompanying ego massage.
Number 2
Don't meet her friends -- yet
Finding the time to date a new girl is always a challenge, so don't make things more difficult for yourself by agreeing to meet her friends, as well. Besides exposing yourself to a modern-day inquisition, you risk also giving her the impression that she can invite one or more of her friends to come out with the two of you. Even worse, she may want to double date with her friends and their boyfriends. It's just a bad situation, and you don't want anything to do with it. So keep her friends out of the picture until you feel confident that the relationship is actually heading somewhere.
Number 1
Don't let her meet your friends -- yet
It's a two-way street, and it's always best to keep your new woman away from your good buddies at the start, too. She may not be prepared for their sense of humor, or they may reveal things about you that you'd rather keep her in the dark about. And make no mistake, she will try and get the scoop on you from your friends if she meets them. Don't let it happen.
dating rules to memorize
Now that you know all the secret dating rules, get out there and catch some women using your newfound knowledge. Just remember to keep this stuff between the brothers.
For as long as there have been men and women, there's been dating and dating rituals. Being the sly hunters we are, men have built up a reservoir of knowledge and cunning over the millennia on how to successfully woo the ladies over the first few weeks of a courtship. There are many fish in the sea, and there are many baiting procedures you can use to reel them in. And though many women may be aware of some of our strategies, they surely don't know of all of them. Let's keep it that way, gentlemen. Keep these timeless secret dating tips under your hat and enjoy the learning process.
Number 10
Wait three days before calling back
The idea behind this dating rule of thumb is to make sure that your new squeeze doesn't think you're desperate to see her. And it's become a golden rule because it often works. Many women know the dating game, and want to see if their new man can play it. Prove that you can by keeping it cool, and resisting the urge to follow up on a meeting too promptly. Just make sure not to wait longer than a few days to call back, or she may cool off entirely.
Number 9
Take her where everyone knows your name
Another way to impress your new woman early in the game is to go somewhere where you already have a great reputation. By taking her to one of your usual haunts, you'll get to showcase your smooth self in action among your vast circle of acquaintances. Whether it's a simple greeting from a DJ at the club or a restaurant manager who hooks you up with the best table, a display of social clout will definitely make an impact on your date. It's a sure-fire way to let her know that she's caught herself a real man.
Number 8
Resist sleeping with her early on
Aside from the fact that withholding yourself will keep her wanting you more, adhering to this rule also shows her that you're a man who isn't ruled by his loins. Don't hold back entirely, though; kiss her passionately as if you were going to have sex, then pull away. Doing so will heighten the sexual tension and will be a huge turn-on for her. And when you finally do decide to do the deed, your patience and self control will end up paying huge dividends in the bedroom.
Number 7
Limit your spending
One of the best ways to know if she's a keeper is to find out how much money she expects you to spend on her. On early dates, take her to places where you don't have to spend much, such as a coffee shop, lounge or boardwalk. This will give you a chance to figure out whether she's all about you... or your wallet. Mind you, don't cheap out completely, or she'll just think you're a bum.
Number 6
Screen her first few calls
While the 10th rule prevents you from appearing too needy, this one allows you to gauge whether or not she's desperate. You want to make sure that you're not getting involved with someone with stalker tendencies. Return her calls one or two days later, so that you keep control of the situation -- but no later than this, or you risk turning her off completely and losing your honey to another bee.
Number 5
Don't offer her gifts early on
Very rarely are you going to recognize a woman as the love of your life within the first few months of dating her. At this point you're still getting to know her, and she most likely hasn't revealed any of those true quirks or characteristics that could put a quick end to your dating. So don't get all goofy and start showering her with expensive gifts.
Number 4
Be mysterious... but not weird
Remember not to volunteer any information about past relationships, your family or your job right away. Your woman will keep you guessing about her, so you need to do the same in return. Maintaining some intrigue keeps the spice in dating. Let her tease information out of you slowly. Make her think that she's "winning" this game, even as you control the flow of information. Just make sure you don't get too creepy about it, or you could end up scaring her off.
Number 3
Don't flatter her too much
While it's true that you will have to do some flattering in your initial flirtations, keep it toned down. The worst thing you can do is lay on the compliments too thick at the beginning. Rather than inflating her head, see if she can enjoy your company and conversation without an accompanying ego massage.
Number 2
Don't meet her friends -- yet
Finding the time to date a new girl is always a challenge, so don't make things more difficult for yourself by agreeing to meet her friends, as well. Besides exposing yourself to a modern-day inquisition, you risk also giving her the impression that she can invite one or more of her friends to come out with the two of you. Even worse, she may want to double date with her friends and their boyfriends. It's just a bad situation, and you don't want anything to do with it. So keep her friends out of the picture until you feel confident that the relationship is actually heading somewhere.
Number 1
Don't let her meet your friends -- yet
It's a two-way street, and it's always best to keep your new woman away from your good buddies at the start, too. She may not be prepared for their sense of humor, or they may reveal things about you that you'd rather keep her in the dark about. And make no mistake, she will try and get the scoop on you from your friends if she meets them. Don't let it happen.
dating rules to memorize
Now that you know all the secret dating rules, get out there and catch some women using your newfound knowledge. Just remember to keep this stuff between the brothers.
Dating: Some General Dating Tips/Advice
By Jack Strom www.datingfgo.com
Whether you're going out on your first date with someone or your tenth, you're probably looking for tips and advice on how to make sure the date goes well, right? Here we'll look at several dating tips that can help, particularly if this is just your first or second date with someone.
1. Be yourself, and be honest about yourself. Even stretching the truth a little will end up backfiring at some point, and could ruin a potential long lasting relationship with the person you're dating.
If you really can't bring yourself to talk truthfully about something, then try to avoid the topic for the first few dates. Unless of course it's extremely important. If you're married for instance, this will not go over well no matter how long you try to put off answering the question. In fact, it'll just get worse with time. So being honest right from the start can save a lot of time, frustration, anger or heartache.
2. Don't do a surprise date the very first time. If you decided to surprise him or her with a disgusting movie for instance, you could find they hate it. The same applies to choosing a surprise restaurant. Imagine choosing a vegetarian restaurant as a "surprise", only to find out your date won't eat anything other than meat.
3. Don't obsess over looks. Not everyone can be a super model and more often than not you'll find the most gorgeous people aren't always so great as people. Mediocre or not so hot looking dates however, might be the sweetest, friendliest person you've ever met. So try to pay attention to them as a whole person, listen to what they say and try to get to know them. Don't just dismiss all potential based on how they look.
4. Accept compliments gracefully. If your date gives you a compliment, you should accept it! Smile and say thank you instead of trying to brush it off or play it down. Often trying to brush off compliments makes it seem as if you're fishing for more, and this can become quite the turn off eventually.
5. If this is the first date, don't plan anything overly time consuming. This is particularly important for blind dates, or date with people you've met online. You need something brief and fairly neutral, just in case either one of you decides this just isn't going to work for you.
6. Always be on time for your date. It's very inconsiderate and disrespectful to be late, and the same can be said if you're too early. Being late can also make you seem arrogant and full of yourself, while being early can come across as being too desperate, eager or needy.
7. Be at your conversational best. Don't make rude comments, crude jokes, or lace everything with suggestive sexual innuendo... particularly on your first date. Other conversation topics to avoid would be anything heated or confrontational. Politics and religion are two obvious topics to avoid on your first few dates, and you also don't want to go into intimate details about previous failed relationships either.
Whether you're going out on your first date with someone or your tenth, you're probably looking for tips and advice on how to make sure the date goes well, right? Here we'll look at several dating tips that can help, particularly if this is just your first or second date with someone.
1. Be yourself, and be honest about yourself. Even stretching the truth a little will end up backfiring at some point, and could ruin a potential long lasting relationship with the person you're dating.
If you really can't bring yourself to talk truthfully about something, then try to avoid the topic for the first few dates. Unless of course it's extremely important. If you're married for instance, this will not go over well no matter how long you try to put off answering the question. In fact, it'll just get worse with time. So being honest right from the start can save a lot of time, frustration, anger or heartache.
2. Don't do a surprise date the very first time. If you decided to surprise him or her with a disgusting movie for instance, you could find they hate it. The same applies to choosing a surprise restaurant. Imagine choosing a vegetarian restaurant as a "surprise", only to find out your date won't eat anything other than meat.
3. Don't obsess over looks. Not everyone can be a super model and more often than not you'll find the most gorgeous people aren't always so great as people. Mediocre or not so hot looking dates however, might be the sweetest, friendliest person you've ever met. So try to pay attention to them as a whole person, listen to what they say and try to get to know them. Don't just dismiss all potential based on how they look.
4. Accept compliments gracefully. If your date gives you a compliment, you should accept it! Smile and say thank you instead of trying to brush it off or play it down. Often trying to brush off compliments makes it seem as if you're fishing for more, and this can become quite the turn off eventually.
5. If this is the first date, don't plan anything overly time consuming. This is particularly important for blind dates, or date with people you've met online. You need something brief and fairly neutral, just in case either one of you decides this just isn't going to work for you.
6. Always be on time for your date. It's very inconsiderate and disrespectful to be late, and the same can be said if you're too early. Being late can also make you seem arrogant and full of yourself, while being early can come across as being too desperate, eager or needy.
7. Be at your conversational best. Don't make rude comments, crude jokes, or lace everything with suggestive sexual innuendo... particularly on your first date. Other conversation topics to avoid would be anything heated or confrontational. Politics and religion are two obvious topics to avoid on your first few dates, and you also don't want to go into intimate details about previous failed relationships either.
Get More From Your Speed Dating
By Jason King www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
These speed dating advice will help guide you to more success in your 3 to 8 minutes of dating. That's all the time you have to impress the person sitting opposite you. And if anyone or yourself would't keep them occupied for that amount of time, and make them stay interested in you then you have no chance of them picking you afterwards.
How you look
The first thing the single sitting opposite you is going to notice about you is how you look. If this fails to impress or makes them cringe you've already put yourself in a place probably impossible to obtain out of. Speed dating events are known usually as held in nice bars or clubs so the dress code will be smart. This would give some clue as how you could be looking. The men need to be wearing a nice shirt, trousers, and polished shoes. Your going to be sitting opposite the singles with only a table between you so brush your hair, have nice clean hands and brush your teeth. It's the same for the single women although women are known commonly as better in this department. Instant attraction will be a major factor. Once you have this you only have to keep it going for a few minutes.
Relax
You will also need to relax when you're opposite your date. There's no need to be nervous, everyone is there for the same reason. You're all there to date each other so getting nervous will only ruin your concentration. you could be calm and on the splendid ball. You'll be asking as many questions as possible in your time limit, and you'll be answering as many as possible as well. The more you Uncover out about your date, and the more they ascertain out about you the better chance you have of making a connection.
Be confident, but not too confident so you come across cocky. You want to be sitting with a look of interest and complete calmness. The date opposite you will Uncover this attractive in generally speaking, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge obtain it just right. You will have plenty of dates to obtain used to it so learn as you go on what works, and what doesn't.
Keep the conversation flowing
Keeping the conversation flowing is very important. With such a short time if any silent moments creep in you can most defiantly forget having another date. Ask open ended questions that can lead into something else that you'll be familiar with. Or brush up on topics that the opposite sex are interested in, and you could keep them happy. The women could learn a bit about their national sport, and put the men to shame. in generally speaking, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge are willing ask a question he stumbles on it could raise a smile, and put some humor into the conversation. This is the time too Uncover out as much as possible about your date. If they feel you're interested in them they will make them feel more interested in you.
Avoid too much alcohol
Never drink too much before the dating starts. You will always get a complimentary drink when you enter the venue but one more after that could be enough. No one is going to be attracted to someone drunk sitting opposite them. Plus you would be quick with your questions and answers. This won't happen in most cases, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge've had too much to drink.
Enjoy yourself
Enjoy yourself when you're speed dating. if you or someone you know don't the single sitting opposite you will see this. The more fun you have you will have more confidence, and this will be in your favor.
Obtain in contact as swiftly as possible
When you learn out about who you have matched up with you'll have to contact them as quick as possible, but without acting desperate. They will know they have matched up with you so will be expecting the contact. An e-mail or phone call the next day would be enough so you can easily arrange a meeting before anyone else can.
These speed dating advice would help you obtain more success out of your small amount of time you have to impress that single sitting opposite you.
These speed dating advice will help guide you to more success in your 3 to 8 minutes of dating. That's all the time you have to impress the person sitting opposite you. And if anyone or yourself would't keep them occupied for that amount of time, and make them stay interested in you then you have no chance of them picking you afterwards.
How you look
The first thing the single sitting opposite you is going to notice about you is how you look. If this fails to impress or makes them cringe you've already put yourself in a place probably impossible to obtain out of. Speed dating events are known usually as held in nice bars or clubs so the dress code will be smart. This would give some clue as how you could be looking. The men need to be wearing a nice shirt, trousers, and polished shoes. Your going to be sitting opposite the singles with only a table between you so brush your hair, have nice clean hands and brush your teeth. It's the same for the single women although women are known commonly as better in this department. Instant attraction will be a major factor. Once you have this you only have to keep it going for a few minutes.
Relax
You will also need to relax when you're opposite your date. There's no need to be nervous, everyone is there for the same reason. You're all there to date each other so getting nervous will only ruin your concentration. you could be calm and on the splendid ball. You'll be asking as many questions as possible in your time limit, and you'll be answering as many as possible as well. The more you Uncover out about your date, and the more they ascertain out about you the better chance you have of making a connection.
Be confident, but not too confident so you come across cocky. You want to be sitting with a look of interest and complete calmness. The date opposite you will Uncover this attractive in generally speaking, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge obtain it just right. You will have plenty of dates to obtain used to it so learn as you go on what works, and what doesn't.
Keep the conversation flowing
Keeping the conversation flowing is very important. With such a short time if any silent moments creep in you can most defiantly forget having another date. Ask open ended questions that can lead into something else that you'll be familiar with. Or brush up on topics that the opposite sex are interested in, and you could keep them happy. The women could learn a bit about their national sport, and put the men to shame. in generally speaking, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge are willing ask a question he stumbles on it could raise a smile, and put some humor into the conversation. This is the time too Uncover out as much as possible about your date. If they feel you're interested in them they will make them feel more interested in you.
Avoid too much alcohol
Never drink too much before the dating starts. You will always get a complimentary drink when you enter the venue but one more after that could be enough. No one is going to be attracted to someone drunk sitting opposite them. Plus you would be quick with your questions and answers. This won't happen in most cases, if you or someone that understands and has expert knowledge've had too much to drink.
Enjoy yourself
Enjoy yourself when you're speed dating. if you or someone you know don't the single sitting opposite you will see this. The more fun you have you will have more confidence, and this will be in your favor.
Obtain in contact as swiftly as possible
When you learn out about who you have matched up with you'll have to contact them as quick as possible, but without acting desperate. They will know they have matched up with you so will be expecting the contact. An e-mail or phone call the next day would be enough so you can easily arrange a meeting before anyone else can.
These speed dating advice would help you obtain more success out of your small amount of time you have to impress that single sitting opposite you.
Online Dating Tips For Men
By Jason King www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
These online dating tips for men will give you that advantage you need when it comes to attracting single woman online. With men usually outnumbering the women by 2 to 1 that edge will get you noticed more, and get you more replies to your e-mails.
First thing any lady is going to see about you is your photo. This is the first point of attraction so if you get this wrong they'll just move on to the next profile. You need a the main photo on your profile to be from the shoulders up. You can get away with waist up but any further away, and it can be a struggle sometimes to see you. You want the photo to be clear as well, and not too dark or blurry. If your photo is surrounded by a bunch of other photos that are close up and in focus your photo will not get looked at. You can use other photos of you on holiday or doing an activity, but save them for the extra photos in your profile.
Your user name will be important as well. Don't pick one that women will take offence too. Anything with a sexual innuendo or something else of that nature will instantly turn them off. You need to be creative. Base it on a hobby, or a character from a film or show you like, make it stand out.
Once you have passed them tests the detail in your profile will get scrutinized. This is where you have to be 100% honest. If you're not honest you will get caught out at some point then you'll be back to square one. Then the effort you put in getting your photo and username right will have been wasted. Honesty is the best policy, and if you do it from the start you will have no worries about making any mistakes later on.
Your next move is contacting the single women. You get a few options here. If you're on your free trial period all you will be able to do is send a smile or a flirt. If a single women gets 100 flirts in her inbox every day, how many will she reply to? Probably none. If you want to impress a women you have to send her a personalized e-mail, and to do this you will have to pay for your membership. This will cost you less than a night out for a month, so you won't break the bank. It will be money well spent when a women you are attracted to replies to your e-mail. Use a spell checker if you can, and read your e-mail allowed so you can here the mistakes if you have made any. If you send an e-mail full of typos and grammatical errors it will just get deleted. Remember you want to impress her, and make your e-mail stand above the others in her inbox. Mention something you have seen in her profile so it doesn't look like something you have sent to 20 other women.
If you do happen to get women that doesn't reply to you don't start harassing her. If she doesn't reply move onto someone else. A good Online dating service will show you when a single was last online. If they have been online since you sent them an e-mail chances are they have read it, and decided not to reply.
If you're not getting the results you're after, and your missing some of the above information in your approach a few small changes will change your success rate.
These online dating tips for men will give you that advantage you need when it comes to attracting single woman online. With men usually outnumbering the women by 2 to 1 that edge will get you noticed more, and get you more replies to your e-mails.
First thing any lady is going to see about you is your photo. This is the first point of attraction so if you get this wrong they'll just move on to the next profile. You need a the main photo on your profile to be from the shoulders up. You can get away with waist up but any further away, and it can be a struggle sometimes to see you. You want the photo to be clear as well, and not too dark or blurry. If your photo is surrounded by a bunch of other photos that are close up and in focus your photo will not get looked at. You can use other photos of you on holiday or doing an activity, but save them for the extra photos in your profile.
Your user name will be important as well. Don't pick one that women will take offence too. Anything with a sexual innuendo or something else of that nature will instantly turn them off. You need to be creative. Base it on a hobby, or a character from a film or show you like, make it stand out.
Once you have passed them tests the detail in your profile will get scrutinized. This is where you have to be 100% honest. If you're not honest you will get caught out at some point then you'll be back to square one. Then the effort you put in getting your photo and username right will have been wasted. Honesty is the best policy, and if you do it from the start you will have no worries about making any mistakes later on.
Your next move is contacting the single women. You get a few options here. If you're on your free trial period all you will be able to do is send a smile or a flirt. If a single women gets 100 flirts in her inbox every day, how many will she reply to? Probably none. If you want to impress a women you have to send her a personalized e-mail, and to do this you will have to pay for your membership. This will cost you less than a night out for a month, so you won't break the bank. It will be money well spent when a women you are attracted to replies to your e-mail. Use a spell checker if you can, and read your e-mail allowed so you can here the mistakes if you have made any. If you send an e-mail full of typos and grammatical errors it will just get deleted. Remember you want to impress her, and make your e-mail stand above the others in her inbox. Mention something you have seen in her profile so it doesn't look like something you have sent to 20 other women.
If you do happen to get women that doesn't reply to you don't start harassing her. If she doesn't reply move onto someone else. A good Online dating service will show you when a single was last online. If they have been online since you sent them an e-mail chances are they have read it, and decided not to reply.
If you're not getting the results you're after, and your missing some of the above information in your approach a few small changes will change your success rate.
Dating Tips For Guys
By Richard G
www.ezinearticles.com
The following dating tips for guys that I am about to share with you should hopefully give you the knowledge and boost you need to get better at dating women, these are things that are intended to help you and that is exactly why I am sharing them with you, remember that everything can be mastered and perfected with just a little learning and practise, that's it, you can be a dating master if you really want to.
Dating Tips For Guys
Here are the tips for you:
Don't go for the same old "cliche" dates as you see everywhere else, you know, the sort of thing that instantly comes into your head when you think of the word date. Do not take your date to places like the cinema or just out for a meal, you want to set yourself apart from the rest of the "pack" of guys that want her, you need to show her that you are unique and not just another guy that's the same as everyone else.
Don't be afraid to spend money, there's nothing worse than coming across as a cheapskate who won't even spend a little money to treat the girl. Usually a date won't cost all that much so this isn't really a big problem, you need to pay for the whole date if it's the first one, this is just common courtesy, if you ask a girl out then you really should be willing to pay for things for her.
Make the date fun. Sometimes dates can be sort of boring, there just isn't any excitement or fun in it and this is usually a horrible experience for both people, you can't let this happen to your date, think of things that would be fun to do, that would add a little excitement to the date, these things will leave an impression in the girls head and you want it to be a good one.
These are just a few dating tips for guys and there are tons more things to really perfect in your dating game, however, these are just a few things to think about for now, remember that everything can be mastered in the dating arena with some learning and practise.
The following dating tips for guys that I am about to share with you should hopefully give you the knowledge and boost you need to get better at dating women, these are things that are intended to help you and that is exactly why I am sharing them with you, remember that everything can be mastered and perfected with just a little learning and practise, that's it, you can be a dating master if you really want to.
Dating Tips For Guys
Here are the tips for you:
Don't go for the same old "cliche" dates as you see everywhere else, you know, the sort of thing that instantly comes into your head when you think of the word date. Do not take your date to places like the cinema or just out for a meal, you want to set yourself apart from the rest of the "pack" of guys that want her, you need to show her that you are unique and not just another guy that's the same as everyone else.
Don't be afraid to spend money, there's nothing worse than coming across as a cheapskate who won't even spend a little money to treat the girl. Usually a date won't cost all that much so this isn't really a big problem, you need to pay for the whole date if it's the first one, this is just common courtesy, if you ask a girl out then you really should be willing to pay for things for her.
Make the date fun. Sometimes dates can be sort of boring, there just isn't any excitement or fun in it and this is usually a horrible experience for both people, you can't let this happen to your date, think of things that would be fun to do, that would add a little excitement to the date, these things will leave an impression in the girls head and you want it to be a good one.
These are just a few dating tips for guys and there are tons more things to really perfect in your dating game, however, these are just a few things to think about for now, remember that everything can be mastered in the dating arena with some learning and practise.
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